Hi, thank you so much for your question! It shows a lot of courage and wisdom to reach out when you’re not sure how to handle something. Situations like these are hard to deal with, and there’s no easy way to handle it, but we’re here to try to help answer your question as best as possible.
I think almost everyone can agree that emotions are extremely hard to deal with. Often times, we let our negative emotions get the best of us and we lash out without wanting to. In a situation where someone gets irritated or frustrated easily and having them blame you for it, it’s easy for us to get caught up in our own emotions and add to the tension. If you feel that there’s some kind of anger building up inside of you as well, it might be a good idea to not say anything, take a couple deep breaths, and just take a moment for you to collect yourself. The last thing we want to do is add fuel to the fire.
Remember, we can’t control how another person thinks, feels, or acts, but we can control our own behavior. It definitely feels unfair when we’re on the receiving end of negative emotions, however, we can’t control another person’s words or actions. If someone you care about is going through a tough time, and they’re feeling especially sensitive, maybe we can be mindful of what we say or do around that person, to make them feel more comfortable. If they’re walking through a rough patch in life, we can’t necessarily solve their problems, but we can be by their side, meet them where they’re at, check up on them once in a while, and continue to love and care for them. Loving them can be as simple as asking how they’re actually doing, and starting a genuine conversation.
Self-loathing is a topic that isn’t talked about often because it makes people uncomfortable. But I want you to know that it is completely normal to have those thoughts. We all have things we don’t like about ourselves, but you are someone who is unique, beautiful, and worth so much. When we have negative thoughts that tell us we’re not worth anything it is super important to reach out and talk about it. You are not alone. Do you have a trusted friend or adult that you’d be comfortable with talking about these things? You can always contact us at ConnecTeen through our online chat room, our text line at 587-333-2724, or our 24/7 phone line at 403-264-TEEN (8336). We’d be more than happy to listen to your story and support you to the best of our abilities.