How many times does my dad need to hit me before its abuse? If it is abuse, what do I do next?


Thank you for reaching out and asking this question!

It’s definitely an important question because your safety matters.

Although it would be a lot easier if we had a certain hit threshold that needed to be reached to classify physical abuse, the truth is that it is not that simple. Everyone’s situation will be a little different in nature. It important to distinguish where you were hit, in what way you were physically hurt, what the reasoning behind the hit was (that is not to say that there is ever sound justification for a parent to hit their child to begin with, as there is no such justification), and the timeline of the physical abuse. Your family situation would also need to be considered.

As you can see, there are a lot of factors to take into account. The first step to take would be to reach out to Child Intervention Services (Calgary: 403-297-2995) or reach out to us so that we can discuss the matter in further detail (call us at 403-264-8336 or text us at 587-333-2724). Depending on the situation, we would then consider reaching out to Child Intervention Services, who we would consult with. They would then discuss the matter with you and decide what the next best course of action would be.

Overall, though, it’s a really tricky situation, so I encourage anyone with these sorts of questions to contact us directly via call or text so we can discuss the matter more thoroughly and privately. If you’re ever in doubt, do not hesitate to reach out to us. 🙂