My mom and step dad are splitting and I don’t really want to see my mom. What should i do?

Hey there!

First off, I think it’s amazing that you took a step forward and reached out for help. That takes a lot of courage. I can’t imagine it’s easy at all to experience a split between your parents… they play a huge part in your life and this is a huge change for all of you. I feel like if I was in your spot I’d be really scared about a lot of things, and generally feel super anxious about what’s going to happen next.

I’m not too sure as to what the situation between yourself and your mom is, but it doesn’t sound like you are very comfortable seeing your mom for the time being, and I think that’s ok. I’m sure you have your reasons for that.  How would you feel about talking to your mom and step-dad about how you’re feeling? Is there another adult in your life that you would feel more comfortable talking to about this instead?

I would also imagine this is also a very isolating time for you, considering it’s a split between your family. At times like this, I find that talking to people close to me helps – be that friends, other family members, or teachers. It gives me a feeling that I’m not so alone, and it gives me an opportunity to talk through my thoughts. If you do anything similar that helps you sort your thoughts and feelings, I think it’s worth giving a shot. Maybe it’s even something you do alone – drawing, journaling, listening to music…

And as always, we are here to listen and stand beside you.  We can also provide you with referrals for agencies that can help you understand your rights as a person under the age of 18. If you want to talk to us, you can always give us a shout via text at 587-333-2724, phone via 403-264-8336, or chat at