That is a great question, and it can be difficult as to understand how you might respond to the situation. When someone doesn’t answer their phone it usually because they wish to not talk to anyone. This can be difficult because usually we want to be with our friends every step of the way when they are facing a problem. However, they might just want to be alone, take a breath and understand the problem they are facing before coming to you. Sometimes reaching out can be what motivates the friend to take action and find help, however sometimes it can lead to conflict between you and the friend.
It’s normal for people to shut everyone out when they are in a bad situation, and it is natural for the people that care about them to reach out and see if they can help said person. However, if they do not need the help right now, don’t think they won’t need it later. If they don’t pick up, call back later or wait until they call you. You have taken the first step into making sure they are alright, now it is their decision to answer the call. At the time when they don’t pick up it can be stressful, not know where they are, or if they are okay, and these are the time you can rely on the people around you or even us here at ConnecTeen. Sometimes the stress might be overwhelming and it is alright to ask for help as well. If you think your friend is hurt, or in an emergency call the non-emergency police or 911 depending on the situation. You can ask them to check on the friend and see if they are alright, and this will put your mind at ease.
However, if your friend tells you to leave them alone, and maybe tell them that when they are ready you are just a phone call away. Letting your friend know that you are there for them can help them understand they are not alone. It is important to respect their decision if they end up not coming to you for help, or asking someone else for help. And remember if you are feel sad, or angry try to calm down by practicing self-care, by doing something you enjoy.
If you ever feel like chatting with us, you can reach us through http://calgaryconnecteen.com/, or text at 587-333-2724 during our support hours (they are found on the website). And we are available 24/7 for call at 403-264-TEEN (8336).
