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I want to be independent in school as I tend to perform better this way, but my parents are making me so stressed I can’t focus at all and I start to panic more. What do I do?

Hey there, thanks for asking that question and sometimes it can be tough answering something like that. There are many people out there that struggle with balancing a life with their parents and school, especially when their parents are causing stress in their lives. It can be frustrating when your parents are making it harder for you to focus on school which then makes you panic more thinking about it.

 First of all, it’s helpful that you recognize that your parents are a source of stress when it comes to school and that you feel better prepared being independent. Sometimes parents don’t understand what you’re going through and the effects of what they say. It’s definitely normal to want to be independent when it comes to school and you even identified that it helps you focus more. With that being the case, it can be helpful if you talk with your parents about how you feel and what both you and they can work on to make sure you succeed at school. Making a plan before having this talk with your parents can help you think about what you want to talk about with them and what changes you want to see. Pointing out that you are more focused when independent can be something that you bring up with your parents as it could be helpful to show that you would do better at school if they agree with you. Having this type of conversation can be difficult so having that plan set out before hand can help you feel prepared and calm when talking with them.

 Also, you mentioned how this situation is stressing you out and makes you panic so it’s important to remember to take care of yourself too. It’s important to find methods that can help you relax when feeling stressed so that it doesn’t lead to more panic later on. Some ways that help people include; watching tv or a movie, reading a book, hanging out with friends, writing in a journal, exercising, meditation, or going for a walk. Activities that you like to do usually can help you deal with some of that stress and is an important part of coping with some of your panic.

 If you have any more questions, you can reach out to us through our online confidential chat , text us at 587-333-2724, or call us at 403-264-8336. We’d love to talk with you further and we really appreciate your question.

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